Picture Courtesy: Carolyn Brandt
How I Told My Mother about the guy I fell in love with.
Here's 'The Announcement'
Months of discussion on whether to inform families and weeks of deliberations on how to do that I came up with a plan & executed it just right. It still makes me think how I gathered the guts to do that and makes me laugh every time.
Backstory: My parents had started sending me pictures of random guys and prospect husbands but I was in a long term relationship. Even though I was quite sick of a telephonic, small talk relationship, I knew I was with the right person. I knew I wanted to be able to spend more time to have deeper conversations with him, share a meal, travel, take joint decisions and much more, so I thought - let's do it?
8 long work hours of Saturday later, I get in the car, leave for home and realise midway that maybe I'm not ready but I know that's only because I haven't decided my outfit and don't have my friends around to give me a pep talk or share the moment or record it. But it was momentary. When we know we are doing the right thing, with the right intentions, we get courageous. In that moment, we get the not- everything-has-to-be-perfect spotlight.
I shake the nerves off and gather the guts to read the text from my boy. It said "ETA: 1 hour". I gulp my fear down the throat, nervously smile looking at the mirror in the lift and open the door to my house.
After a normal post work -day-hugging-smiling-daily-office-chit-chat over tea, I tell my mother some of my 'friends' are coming over and wait for my boy to ring the bell and sit on the couch while I make my mother dress up proper to meet and greet my 'Friends'.
Here's how the scene played:
Frame 1: She enters the room in her penguin walk, sees my boy sitting there alone
Frame 2: He stands up, bows his head
Frame 3: She makes small talk, bows her head in response
Frame 4: My evil self smirks a little and I go "No one else is coming. This is the man, ask whatever you need to and let's get on with it".
And that's How I Told My Mother about the love of my life.